I’m sure we can all relate to this one!
Are You Wearing Blinders
We all have people in our lives that are there for one reason or another… friendship, romance, co-worker, family, etc. I don’t know why but some of us tend to see what we want to see in people instead of what they are showing us. We put blinders on to what is in our mind about a person instead of paying attention to who and what they truly are.
Seeing The Best In People
I am definitely guilty of this especially with the people that I care about. Don’t get me wrong… I feel that most people have a lot of good in them but at times when I care about a person, it can stop me from reacting to certain qualities that I don’t really like.
I’m not saying you should cast a person to the side just because you see certain qualities that you don’t like because we all have them but don’t fool yourself into believing that those qualities aren’t there either. Pay attention to who they are and watch what they’re showing you. I always try to see the best in people and even when I don’t, I still love them anyway.
Seeing The Worst In People
Then there are the times when we see the worst in people. Everyone has their bad or not so pleasant characteristics but at times when we’ve gone through certain hurtful things we tend to place that on people unfairly. When we go through bad things with people we sometimes act as if everyone is that way although that’s not what they’re showing us.
This is another form of blinders that we put on. I call them “Bitter Shades”. Some situations leave us bitter and we sometimes put it on people that don’t deserve it.
Follow Your Gut
What I try to do is follow my gut. I believe there are good people that sometimes do some not so good things, display jealousy and don’t act like a good friend, etc.
I want to say there are bad people but I have always tried to see behind a person’s bad behavior to find out why they’re behaving that way before I just label them a bad person. Sometimes you never know what a person has been through so it’s nice to empathize and show compassion to their struggles. I’m not saying to give a person permission to treat you like crap but try to look deeper if you can.
The best tip I can give is to not only listen to what a person says but pay attention to their actions as well. We all have good and bad in us. Don’t be naive. Notice both sides of a person and…
WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE… BELIEVE THEM!